First of all, I realize that my last blog could have been triggering for some. Please know that I do NOT take healing lightly. Healing looks different for everyone and I am 100% not here to judge. I’m not telling anyone to ‘just get over it’. Childhood traumas, present obstacles, abusive relationships…all of it, these are NOT light topics and not something you can heal from overnight. My point I was trying to make is to please take the steps to heal from those things so they don’t become a built-in excuse for you to not live your best life. You are the only one that can heal YOU…and YOU owe that to yourself! I’m not saying it’s an easy road either, but DO THE WORK – it’s worth it! Perhaps I didn’t express that properly in my previous post, but I wanted to make sure to get my point across. I would like to help you in your healing journey, not hinder it!
You are the only one that can heal YOU…and YOU owe that to yourself!
Which brings me to my thoughts for today…and how ironic – OVERTHINKING! After I posted that last blog, I felt like I came across harsh. I mean, I know my intentions and they are always from a good place, as I would love to help heal everyone everywhere, but I didn’t want people to think I was being insensitive. What a wild hamster wheel. I feel like I overthink darn near everything. Anyone else feel this?
A great example of my lovely overthinking mind is a good friend of mine and I ran into each other one night and we talk darn near every day, multiple times a day. I didn’t hear from her the next morning, as I normally would and I instantly started replaying our previous interaction (that was literally minutes). Did I do something to upset her? Was she mad at me? Long story longer…as the day went on, she thought the exact same thing. Seriously, what is wrong with us as humans? Can we all please make a vow to just BE and STOP overthinking EVERYTHING! I could have simply said – did I do something? Are you upset with me? Nope, instead I stewed over it, stared at my phone and made up all of these silly conclusions.
This quote is so spot on! Overthinking, future tripping, guessing an outcome…whatever you want to call it, it all turns into anxiety. We get worked up over a hypothetical. What a vicious circle. Why do we do this to ourselves? It’s so self-inflicted. Why not DO YOU with the best of intentions and confidence and stop there. We live in this crazy immediate world and oh dear, if someone doesn’t respond to us within a few minutes, a few hours or good Lord, wait for it…an entire DAY, we think the absolute worst. Let’s just make a promise to each other. Stop making trouble for yourself. It will eat you up inside, please take my word for it. Have a question to ask someone, just rip off the band-aid and do it. Wondering why someone didn’t call you back, call them. Can we find strength in numbers and do this together. Catch yourself while you are creating a scenario in your head and stop yourself. Instead of thinking the worst case scenario…
What if you FLY?
I’ve already been drafting my next post, as it is a COOK topic and it’s baking season. I love to cook and am pretty good at it, baking…let’s just say, I do my best. I’m going to share what I bake every year. All of my recipes are super easy and have become favorites of so many. Can’t wait to share with you!
Have a magical weekend, don’t forget to buy yourself flowers (or hint to someone that you’d really enjoy some flowers) and go easy on yourself. This can be a crazy emotional time of year too. Lean into what you are grateful for and surround yourself with love and support!
