Why oh why is there so much comparison going on? No two people, situations or outcomes are EVER the same. So why do we do this to ourselves and others? Let’s stop the comparison game…TODAY! Who’s with me?
Social media doesn’t help this situation at all. You see what people WANT you to see. Drink this and you will look like a super model. My family is picture perfect – look, the picture proves it. Invest in this and you will be a millionaire. Let’s be honest…nothing ever worth it is easy – good health, marriage/children/family life and earning a living. Life is digging in the trenches and doing the work and gosh, that is part of the beauty. The beauty is in the journey of life and all the trials and tribulations in between. After all, it’s that hard work to get to where YOU want (not where someone else is or wants you to be), that is where all the lessons are. You need to struggle and try different things to see what works and what doesn’t. BUT, life is not a one-size fits all type of situation. What works for you may not work for someone else…even if your situations appear to be similar. They just aren’t and that is OK.
Not only do we, as humans, compare ourselves and our journey to others…we try to compare our situations with others. Please stop doing this. My divorce is not like yours, and that is OK. My childhood was not like yours, and that is OK. My injury is not like yours, and that is OK. My child isn’t the same as yours, and that is OK. I could go on and on. You definitely cannot understand and/or have empathy surrounding a situation until you have gone something similar…I understand that whole heartedly – however, don’t rob the other person of their experience.
So please guys, let’s stop this toxic comparison game. Yes, even the ‘I used to be more fit in my 20’s’…uhhhhh, you aren’t in your 20’s. Stop comparing yourself with yourself. How about, if you want to change something about yourself, then do it. There truly isn’t a magic formula or pill (FYI…Jack and the Beanstalk isn’t real). Quite honestly, who gives a hoot what you looked like in your younger years – that isn’t your present. Embrace and love who you are RIGHT NOW! In order to get what you want, mentally, physically, professional and personally…YOU NEED TO PUT IN THE WORK! You are a unique creation and you should treat yourself as such.
Ha – that was a good one…pizza is delicious and so are YOU. Please make me a promise to stop with the comparing. Just DO YOU and be proud of yourself where you are in this exact moment. Who cares what Judy next door is doing or Bob on Instagram – what are YOU doing? Are you doing things that bring you closer to your goals and dreams? Please don’t forget to get yourself some fresh flowers to bring you a little joy. As always, thank you for being on this journey with me – together we can make a difference in our own lives and in the lives of others. Cheers!
