The Hard Things

Last week I talked about Fear and Love. I think there is so much fear surrounding doing the hard things in life. And really…what isn’t difficult? Raising children, choosing the right career, falling in love, staying fit and healthy – these are TOUGH things! Shoot, sometimes getting out of bed in the morning is hard – I’ve been there. Some are just tougher than others and require you to take a chance.

Why do the right things tend to be the hardest things? Let’s think about this for a moment:

• Telling your children ‘No’ – for whatever reason. They could harm themselves, you don’t have the money, the answer is just no. It’s the right thing, but it isn’t easy.
• Waking up when your alarm goes off the FIRST time and perhaps getting in a workout first thing in the morning. Not easy, but the right thing for your mind and body.
• Asking for a divorce. Heavy stuff…but if you know this is what is best for you, it’s the right thing to do. It doesn’t make it any easier. I know firsthand, it’s very hard to ask for a divorce.
• Asking someone out for the first time. I always felt bad for the boys asking girls to a dance, how brave and hard. But, if they want to take that girl to a dance, it’s the right thing.
• Losing weight because it is at a point where it is actually affecting your health. This is not an easy feat. Most folks have had the same habits for years. Again, the right thing is hard.
• Telling someone you love them. This takes so much courage and you know it’s the right thing to say, but it doesn’t make those words any easier to come out of your mouth.
• Accepting or turning down a job offer. Scary stuff, especially for your kiddos joining the work force for the first time. Hard decisions, but you will make the right one for you.
• Moving away to somewhere new. I know so many folks that have taken the bold leap to leave what they know and plunge into something new and different. Turned out to be the right thing, but definitely scary.

I could go on and on with examples. What are you holding back doing because it’s hard? Let’s make a pact, as this is my theme right now. Let’s get comfortable with getting uncomfortable. I’m not saying that jumping into something new (whatever that looks like for you) is going to be smooth sailing, but just think about what could happen if you starting living this amazing fulfilling life that you didn’t know was available to you? Often times, the right decisions are the toughest and that is what gives us more strength and courage to continue to face the hard things. Please don’t sit around and complain about what you don’t have if you aren’t willing to go do the hard things and work for what you want! If you don’t like something, change it, this is YOUR life and you CAN do hard things!

Completely off topic, but my new menu is up. You can access all menu’s HERE. I love that some of you are getting inspired, even my own daughter. I got this message from her last week and it made my heart so happy!

Wishing you a magical week ahead, filled with beautiful moments, maybe a little risk and things that bring you pure joy. I encourage you to take a leap into doing the hard things. Will you fall on your face sometimes, you sure will…but that is where you just gain more tools and get stronger. Falling on your face is where the lessons are learned. Together, let’s erase the fear behind doing the hard things.

Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same.

I’m going to go dive back into my new book. This is book 2 of this Housemaid series. I couldn’t put down the first one and my daughter said all 3 were page turners. I’d love your book suggestions too. Thank you for your support and your sweet messages – I very much appreciate you. Lastly, permission granted to get yourself some beautiful flowers – you deserve it!